No Expectation = No Disappointment

I was talking about how you should maintain your friendship in my blog yesterday. Think maybe I am in the wrong. Why? Because my expectations for frens are too high. YY used to tell me that I should not expect frens to treat me that same way I treated them. I am the type who will go all way out to help frens when they need me. Everything is about Yi Qi and even my mom feels that frens are more important in my life. I hardly will reject fren's invitation to meet so long it doesn't clash with another appointment. I give them prompt responses when they asked me something. And I expect my frens to treat me the same way. I used to get very angry when I dun get the same type of response. After some talks with YY, I was able to let loose a bit. I dun take it so hard now when my frens decline or didn't even respond to my dates. But I still set certain expectations and get disappointed or angry with them. I think that I am still not doing a good job. I shouldn't even have any expectations for them. It's true that if you do not have any expectations, you will not feel any disappointment. Well, guess I'll be happier this way.

Not only will I no longer have expectations for frens, I will also change my way of handling frens. In the past, I will go all out to help frens even though I am unhappy with the person and expect the same from them. Now I will look at the way frens treat me and return them with the same attitude. If you are not there when I needed you, then dun expect me to be there when you need me.

Sometimes it's all not so good to be helpful. You may even end up messing things up and putting yourself in a difficult position. I may even end up hurting my frens so think it's better for me to stay away from trouble now. I always try and give advices when frens talk to me bout their problems and sometimes these advices dun work and frens end up getting hurt. Maybe I should be like some frens who mainly listens to the problems but only give you some general advices. Maybe they are just trying to be politically correct to frens. I am the type who always speak my mind and I can't help if my opinions dun work.

Great, think now I should talk less & listen more. Most important of all is to stay away from trouble. Always remember that no expectations = no disappontment.