How IMPORTANT are Friends to You???

I guess different people has different priorities in life. For me, frens are 1st, love is 2nd & family is 3rd. I've got frens who told me that love is the most important thing in their life. That means that so long they have a partner, others dun really matter. But I've also got many frens who put frens as their priority jus like me. How do you know if frens are important to you? I've seen some only talk but no action. Everytime say frens are important but when they've got bf/gf, it's the usual disappearing act.

There are many factors to maintain a strong bond between frens. One important factor is TRUST. I think as frens, there should always be mutual trust. I personally hate people who doubt me whether at home, at work or with my frens/boyfren. If this person is your best fren, then you should know each other long enough to earn that trust. If you cannot even trust your fren, then your friendship is no longer valuable. You should not even consider the person as your fren. He/she should be jus an acquaintance.

Recently I've downgraded some of frens to that level. Some is because I cannot see their sincerity in wanting to be my fren. How do you see if ur frens are this type? These are the ones who only contact you when they need your help and always not available when you ask them out. Another type are those who dun make an effort to keep in touch with you and expect you to shower them lots of attention. Both parties play an important part in friendship so both have to make effort to keep in touch. There is no such thing as only one party showing concern. The worse type that I cannot tolerate are those who always ask you out when they are unattached. Once they have a bf/gf, you become a backup. Meaning to say that they will only date you out when their partners are unavailable. Some even date you out and when they realize their partner is free to meet them, they cancel their date with you. These people are normally automatically written off from my fren list. I can still tolerate frens who auto-pilot me because they are too lazy or tired but those who auto-pilot me because they prefer to meet their bf/gf, I have no threshold for them.

I always believe that friendship should not be easily affected. There are cases of frens falling out because they fall for the same gal/guy. I strongly believe that there is nothing wrong with falling for the same person. This shows that your taste is good cause your fren also like the same person. It is still ultimately up to the person to choose who he/she wanna be with. No point ruining your friendship because of that. Be cool about it, its better to have 2 frens than 2 enemies if you really loose the gal/guy to ur fren. Give them ur blessings as a fren. I am sure your frens would be impressed with this action.

I used to be a pretty lousy fren and I dun make an effort to keep in touch with them. Not because I have a bf but because I am too lazy. I dun like to talk on phone too much and I am not good with sms so its not easy to keep in touch. Now that I have a lappy, I can chat with frens via msn. Another good thing is some of my frens have got blogs so I keep myself updated by reading them. I've some frens who do the same for me. We are not frequently in touch but they are still updated with my news. I appreciate those who make an effort everyday to check out my blog. A BIG THANK YOU to them. Some even sms me when they find out that I am down. I even receive complaints from them when I dun have time to update my blog.

So people out there, if you truly treasure ur frens, then put in more effort to keep in touch with them.