Friends

Hmmn, I wonder how would you define what do you call a friend? Is it someone you know? Or is it someone whom you can trust? Every individual would have different definitions for friend. I use to consider anyone whom I know as a friend. However as time goes by, I realize a friend is someone whom you can depend on and one who will not betray you. They must be someone you can trust. I think we need to categorize people whom we know. We need to be careful when selecting friends.
Why am I suddenly so concious about this? I guess it's because along the way, I've been betrayed by many "friends". I've got friends who don't trust me, who bitched about me behind my back, who stab me behind my back, who look down on me, who don't understand me & many many more other stuff. I feel that as a friend, these things should not happen. You should not harm a person whom you treat as a real friend. If you feel that your friend is wrong in any way, you should tell your friend and not the whole world except him/her. You should also trust your friend no matter what other people say about him/her. If there are no trust between friends, then that is not a true friendship.
Friends are those who are there for you when you need them. Friends are those who give good advice & not those who simply support or agree with all your foolish actions. Friends are those who you need not meet all the time but still care for you. Friends are those who shows true concern & not those just trying to be nice on the surface.
I am disappointed that I've lost some friends along the way but I guess it's lesson learnt. I've learnt not to trust everyone I know & to differentiate who are my true friends. However, that does not mean I do not keep in contact with people whom I do not categorize as my friends. They are still considered as acquintances. There is just one thing they won't get from me, that is TRUST. I will never trust people whom I don't consider as friends. And I give my friends 3 chances to betray my trust. Once you've exceeded your chances, then I shall no longer consider you as a friend.
I am not trying to be funny but I just feel that I should be careful cause it does hurt alot when you realize a friend has betrayed or abandoned you.

A New Challenge

24 May 2010, the day that I begin a new challenge in my career. After being in the Regional section for almost 1.5 years, I've decided that I should move into a new challenge. Applied for an internal transfer within the Company and was glad to be accepted. It took some time for the transfer to be effected. But I am definitely excited to be able to take up a new challenge. I resolute to do well in this current job & prove myself within the next 1-2 years. Many of my friends think that I am not capable just because I was a secretary in my previous company. However they forgot that I had much more working experience than them. I've been in the industry for a long time. Even my current colleagues were surprised that I had 16 years of working experience. One colleague even asked me how could I have 16 years experience when I look 20+ years old. I was happy to hear that people think that I am young but I do have that much experience as I am already 33 years old. I told myself that I will not let people look down on me anymore, especially those who think highly of themselves. However, I will not get myself involved in politics just to be promoted. I shall prove that I am good using my own abilities. I shall work & live with a good heart. I despise people with wicked hearts & step on others to get to the top. I always believe in retribution which I've seen some along the way. If you've done bad, hope you can learn to be good soon. I also hope that my wicked side will never appear. Let's all aspire to be a good person.

什么是爱情？

有多少人懂什么才是真正的爱情？许多人认为只要另一半符合他们的择偶条件，就可以对对方有爱意。但只要对方不符合任何一个条件，他们就会觉得不可能爱上对方。爱情难道不是一种感觉吗？只要有心有感觉，其他外在条件其实一点都不重要。可是这往往不是许多人的想法。外在美还是很重要的。要长得漂亮，俊俏，要有好身材，大眼睛，大胸部，长腿。但我希望那些对另一半要求高的人先看看自己的长相。不要以为自己很美或帅，其实只是自以为是的想法。爱情是一种感觉，只要有感觉，你就不会在意对方的长相。我就曾经爱上一个长得完全不帅的男生。连朋友都不了解我为何会爱上他。我觉得是因为我们有太多共同兴趣与话题吧。我永远相信这种感觉而我也期待能遇到一个让我再次拥有爱情的男人。

人心难测

我发现我越来越不了解身边的朋友。一个曾经友善的朋友如今因为社会地位变高了，而变得遥不可及。一个让人尊重的朋友，原来不是很看得起我们，觉得我们工作能力不高。一个心地善良的朋友，原来也持有一颗报复的心。被心爱的人伤害过后也想过要报复。我想人不为己，天诛地灭。每个人都有自私的心。都可以为了自己而舍弃身边的朋友。人心真的好可怕，你永远不知道它何时是好的，何时是坏的。我们永远都要有所防备，以免被伤害。难道世上没有一个真正善良的人吗？

Nothing is Fair

I've recently realized that nothing is fair in this current society. Especially the treatment for women with pretty looks & women who don't have good looks. It is normal for people to give better treatment when they see pretty ladies. But whose fault is it when you are not born with pretty looks? Are we to blame our parents just because we look normal & don't attract attention or don't get better treatments? Even at work, you tend to get work done easier when you have a pretty face. Colleagues are more willing to help when you are pretty, especially male colleagues. If you are able to talk sweetly, things work better with your pretty face. Among friends, prettier gals tend to get more attention & care from guy friends when going out. Guy friends are always worried that their pretty gal friends will get lost or fall down & ruin their pretty face. To some, so long you got a pretty face means you got a good heart. To me, alot of these are crap. I don't treat handsome guys differently. I only give better treatment to people whom I think deserve such treatment. It means if you are good to me, I am good to you. If you are wicked to me, I let God punish you. However, I will no longer be interested to have such people as friends. I want to only make friends with people with good heart & not good looks. It's a plus factor if my friends are good looking cause I feel proud going out with them. I am also working to have a good heart. Sometimes when people pissed you off, you tend to have wicked thoughts. But it is up to an individual to brush away this kind of thoughts. I hope I can remain a kind girl and my friends are not those who treat people base on looks.