Friendship

I remembered that I wrote something about friendship sometime in Oct 07. Here is another one to add on to the one I wrote earlier. Sometimes I feel that friendship is a very amazing thing. It is something that many cannot live without. But I do know a fren who can survive without frens. Good luck to him.

Anyway, has anyone ever think how do you consider a person your fren or what do you see in a friendship. I never really had many frens last time so never thought about this question. Recently, I started to think about it. I feel that a fren is someone who is true to you and be there for you when you need him/her. A fren should always keep in touch with you and be concern with your problems. As a good fren, you should always try to remember your frens' birthday. It is very disappointing when you forget. I always treat my frens truly. Although sometimes I will suan them but I will always give them my assistance if they need help. I just hate it when they take advantage of my good will. I may be kind at heart but that does not mean I can be bullied.

I have seen people who claimed to be your good frens but they only look for you when they needed help. For these people, I dun consider this as friendship, it seems more like networking. A fren told me today that people make use of one another in life and you can never expect a fren to treat you the same way you treat him/her. I think its quite true. People are born selfish, you always do things that are for your own benefit. I made some frens through work. Some of them whom I am still in touch with although we are no longer working together, these I consider them frens. I have frens who also read my blog regularly to keep themselves updated about my life. I am very touched by their effort cause they may have not have time to catch up with me so the only way to find out how I am is to read my blog. There are some who calls me immediately when they find out that I am upset. I am truly grateful for their friendship.

I have also come to realize that there are frens who treat us as a "reserve" or "backup". They always never reply to appointments cause they will only come if they dun have other dates or plans. Why you can't you give your frens the priority if they date you first??? Cannot understand these people??? Anyway I hate being a "reserve" or "backup". The feeling sucks. If you cannot even remember that your frens have dated you, that shows how unimportant your frens are to you. Frens who always auto-pilot are also losers.

For all my frens out there, please remember my birthday is on 19th April hor, I'll be very disappointed if you forget.