Think I probably wrote about this topic some time back but I can't really remember what I wrote. People have their own definitions of Love. In this post, I mean specifically love in a relationship and not love for family or friends. How do you know when you fall in love with someone? For me, I will call it love when I keep thinking of the guy and my heart beats faster every time I see him. There must be chemistry between us. I hope to fall for someone who can understand me well and share similar interests with me. There are bound to be differences but I do believe that besides love, both parties must also strive to compromise and resolve all problems. Love also mean being devoted to the other party. There is no way you can love 2 persons at the same time. Even if there is, you must have love one more than the other. There is also no way that you can fall in love with another person shortly after breaking up with the previous partner. I always feel that the new partner is just a substitute. Don't do this to someone who truly loves you. Think before you accept another person's love.
On the other hand, how do you know if someone loves you? Well, there are different ways to portray one's love. But what you need to know is don't misunderstand other's care & concern for you as love. Some gals think that when a guy treats her nice means it's love. For goodness sake, we are in the 21st century, guy & gal can be close friends. Don't assume, find out more before you decide that the guy really loves you. I learnt my lessons from past experiences. Never tell a guy you love him until you are very sure he loves you too. To make your life easier, NEVER fall for someone unless you are sure he/she has the same feelings for you. It is a waste of time & energy to get rid of the feelings when you realize he don't like you. When I say don't fall in love easily don't mean not giving others a chance to know you better. Most couples started as friends. I never believe in love at first sight. Even if you cannot become a couple, you can still remain as friends. It is always good to expand your social circle. I am also working hard to expand my social circle.
To end this post, I would like to conclude that love cannot be forced, it must be a mutual feeling between 2 parties. A one sided relationship won't work. If you think that maybe the other party will eventually fall in love with you if you wait for him, forget it and go find a better man. There ain't many such successful cases out there. I personally experienced it.
I hope that everyone of you out there will eventually find your true love. Remember to treasure the person if you have already found him/her.
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